The Young adult life can be tumultuous at times. I bet if you think back on yours, you’ll know exactly what I’m talking about. Wouldn’t it have been nice to have someone to turn to like a mentor.
- Sometimes Young Adulthood causes distance between parents and offspring. So wouldn’t it be nice to have someone they can trust and ask for advice. That is where mentors can help.
- Young adult brains are still developing. I know that’s the last thing we’d want to say to Young Adults, but it’s a medical fact. With the development of the MRI it is possible to see this clearly now.
- They’re using a different part of the brain to make interpretations. Adults can give them different perspective. Adults have experienced general life lessons along the way. We have completely different perspectives by shear quantity of experiences.
- Mentors have access to more resources. Some things are restricted to 18 or 21 year olds. For instance, you can’t rent a car until you are 21. Yet, we give licenses to 16 year olds. (That’s a whole other topic). People can’t drink legally until 21. And no mentors do not need to be buying liquor for minors. I’m just stating that we do have more access to resources that they may be needing. So we might need a mentor to access some research to explain how their brains are not fully developed yet.
- They may be interested in a field of work that they have only seen on TV, or heard about in a video. What if they’d like to see what it’s really like. They could benefit to see what “a day in the life” would be like. Who knows what they might have been thinking took place in that field of work. I experienced this when I went to Nursing School. I knew I wanted to help people, so that was the natural suggestion. What I didn’t understand was that nurses give medications to patients more than anyone else. Well, I have my own opinions of the pharmaceutical companies, so I would not be a good dispenser of medications. I’d probably be suggesting homeopathic solutions.
- Mentors may have been there and done that. I don’t mean to sound condescending. Adults have completed young adult years, so naturally, they have experienced some of the same milestones. Mentors may have made educational choices that could impact someone. A mentor could give insight on relationship issues that they didn’t know how to deal with at the time. They may have struggled with anxiety, depression, suicidal tendencies. Mentors may have found some methods to deal with these sort of issues that they could share.
- The family dynamic is not as strong as it used to be. Earlier in history, families stayed in the same vicinity of one another. My grandparents lived down the street, along with two aunts and their families. My father kind of took the fatherly role with some of my cousins because they didn’t have a dad present in their home. Or my grandpa did the same while he was alive. I know some moms have mothered others because they didn’t have a consistent one in their lives. “It takes a Village” is no joke.
- Some Young Adults prefer the company of older people. We all have preferences. I love babies, my sister loves elderly people. It’s not even just a matter of liking, it’s also a matter of comfort. I just feel more comfortable reaching out to babies than elderly people.
- Who did you need when you were in your teens and twenties. Sometimes that realization alone can help us to see how we can help. I had a lot of insecurities when I was young, as did many others. My family wasn’t really good at having a conversation about feelings. So it was usually kind of swept away and ignored. So I make sure to keep lines of communication as open as possible with my kids. Even if it’s something I don’t want to hear, I’d prefer to listen and remind them they are loved.
- They could use a change of mindset. If we grow up in a home with a scarcity mindset, we’ll most likely carry it with us. Or it can do the opposite and motivate us to act differently. We are all affected by our environment. I didn’t grow up working out or being around others that worked out either. That would have been very beneficial for me to be around. But now I’m married to someone who sells fitness equipment for a living. And he works out six days a week. So that has definitely had an effect on my mindset.
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