I always want to do my best. I don’t like to be late. When you put the two together, they don’t work well. In fact, procrastination is a paralyzing condition for some, like me, who like to be perfect.
I know there is no such thing as perfect, but there is a high standard that can be achieved in most things. The problem starts when you have too high of expectations, that you go into perfectionism and then get paralyzed. Does that make sense?
I was just experiencing this. I didn’t want to start writing until I knew the big picture. Fear of wasting time is one of my biggest fears. That must be a phobia that I’m not aware of the name. I don’t mind working hard as long as it’s worth something in the end.
So in an effort to not waste time, I often wait and wait and don’t take action. I’m finding this to be a handicap in my life. I start with the best of intentions, but then stall out pretty quickly. Let me state that this is definitely something I desire to change about myself. Having accountability really helps. If I know someone is aware of what I’m supposed to be doing and may ask me about it, I’m much more likely to get it done.
I once read an article about creating habits and it described four different types of habit creators. The one that I resonated with described how I need outside accountability. I used to really beat myself up about this, but no more. Reading that in the book helped me to feel less of a loser because there must be others who have the same trait. If there are others out there, comment below so we can form a group or something.
Like I said, once I realized this issue and accepted it as a part of me, I was able to deal with it in a different way. We all have strengths and weaknesses. This just happens to be something I can work on and am doing so. When we find out others have similar traits it gives us some validation that we aren’t totally alone in the matter. Don’t you agree?
What is the moral of the story?
Learn about yourself.
Find ways to celebrate your strengths.
Find ways to better your weaknesses.