Young Adult Parenting: Fred, 24 years old
I will call him Fred since I didn’t get his permission to share his story.
Fred was giving me a ride home yesterday from my mechanics’ shop. We were chatting and I wasn’t prying, I promise. Sometimes people just share their soul with anyone who wants to listen. I like to listen.
First, we talked about how he grew up on the west side of Aurora and eventually moved to the east side. He is living with his parents but will be purchasing his own home soon.
We had seen a motorcycle rider and I mentioned how I used to like them. He said the same but mentioned how dangerous they can be to ride. I said I haven’t been on one since I lost my cousin in a motorcycle accident.
Fred and I talked about how having children changes your life. He mentioned he has a 7-year old son and how he had him when he was 17 years old. It definitely changed his life.
He continued to talk about his teen years and how he couldn’t really do the things his friends were doing because he had a son to take care of. But he did have support from his parents so he started getting experience from fixing cars. And now, he works in a small auto repair shop and has been there for a few years.
I told him what a great thing it was that he was raising his son. He said he lost his dad when he was 10, so it was important for him to be there for his son. And so he is.
I think society focuses a lot on single moms and how they sacrifice for their kids. But there are some single dads who do the same. I wonder if they have the same resources that single moms do. And I notice that I’m meeting a lot more who are stepping up and taking care of their kids especially in these situations.
It was great to get to know Fred. I look forward to getting to know him more and seeing how we can support him.